New Rules!

Hello everyone. I haven’t been pleased with some comments after my latest post and even with some comments before that. It made me realize how lenient and accommodating I have always been, and that some people have started taking advantage of that. There were many nice comments after my last post as well. In fact I thought it was one of my best posts and I got many positive responses. But there are always a few who can’t be respectful, even if they may not agree. I have decided to make rules about posting on my blog so we all know where we stand with each other. Some of you don’t even have to read the rules because you have always been respectful and always will be, but I would suggest that most of you read it before you comment on my blog again. I will post these rules on the top bar and add to them as I see fit.

1) There shall be no disrespect and condescending comments to the author of this blog, who is sharing his tennis knowledge with you and providing a place for you to discuss tennis – for free. Failure to adhere to this rule will result in an immediate and permanent ban.

2) There shall be no more doping accusations without concrete proof. Failure to adhere to this rule will result in an immediate and permanent ban.

3) Blind worship and extreme fanaticism are strongly discouraged. This blog has and always will be about objectivity and it is a tennis blog first of all. No individual player is bigger than the sport, and no individual player is the devil either. If you can’t find any fault with the player you are a fan of it is better to keep quiet. If you can’t find anything good to say about the player you dislike the most it is better to keep quiet too. I am not interested in hearing from extremists, whether it be praise or criticism. Failure to adhere to this rule will result in an immediate and permanent ban.

4) The author of this blog reserves the right to erase comments and ban commenters at his own discretion. If you ever have a comment erased I suggest that you be careful what your next comment is, because you may not be far from a ban.

5) This is the author’s blog. He pays for the hosting and he writes all the posts. He is absolutely free to erase comments and ban commenters as he sees fit, just like you as the reader are absolutely free to read or not read his blog. This is more common sense than an actual rule, but you would be surprised how many people don’t have the most common of sense. This rule is for those people.

I have always been extremely lenient with comments and readers but as usual there are a few who take advantage of your leniency and are always trying to see how far they can push the boundaries. I regret having to make these rules. This blog has always been extremely liberal and have welcomed most views. But I have been left no choice. To ensure the continuation of this blog and to guard against extreme fanaticism and blind worship I have to make these rules. If you haven’t gotten it by now – this is first of all a tennis blog. It is not a fan blog. Your fanaticism and bias is not welcome here. There are plenty of places on the web for that. Believe me. I hope we have understood each other very well. The above rules will be enforced by me without mercy or hesitation. If you are respectful and objective, and is willing to grow as a person and a fan, then you have nothing to worry about.

 

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34 Comments

  1. I agree, it’s a shame the ATP website doesn’t have similar rules!

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    Ru-an Reply:

    You are welcome Nicole. If everyone could just be normal and respectful rules would not be necessary, but that is simply too much to ask for some people. Especially online where people think they don’t have to take responsibility for their comments. These rules are there to protect the respectful ones like yourself.

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  2. Hi, Ruan.

    I have enjoyed your blog for a couple of years now so thanks for that. Regarding rule #1 above about no disrespectful or condescending comments about the author, I can appreciate and understand this rule. I would like to point out that in “The Truth About the Australian Open Final” post, you made the following comment: “Something I forgot to mention about Thailand is that the ego seems to be less prevalent here in the east, which is a welcome relief from the ego dominated west.” You then went on to comment, “A very western thing to say. The kind of attitude I am glad to be rid of.” As a citizen of the USA, your comments about the west are hurtful and not in keeping with the spirit of your blog in my opinion. With all due respect, I am willing to be respectful of you and the comments I make, but should it not also be the same responsibility on your part to your readers to do likewise? I hope you don’t ban me for my comment as I do really enjoy your blog! Thanks again, Ruan, for all your hard work on the blog.

    Sincerely, Karrie

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    Ru-an Reply:

    There is a difference between disagreeing and being disrespectful. I have no problem with disagreement, so there is no need for me to ban you. At no stage were you being disrespectful towards me. You just have to understand that I work hard at this blog and always make a post unless the circumstances just does not allow it. I don’t charge a fee and I have a lot of tennis knowledge, so when people can’t be respectful towards me I find that unacceptable. I feel like I am wasting my time, and that I can do something for someone who would appreciate it more. I’m sorry if my comment was hurtful, but it doesn’t change the fact. In my experience the east is less ego dominated than the west and many would agree with me, and the comment in reply to me confirmed it. If something is hurtful maybe there is truth to it? Do you want to be a victim or do you want to improve yourself so you can’t be hurt? The choice is yours.

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  3. I like the idea of rules here, about time. Since most of what we say is opinion let’s keep it civil. The World is full of vile words thrown at others, civility counts. East/West, from my experience there are good and bad people from everywhere no matter how enlightened a culture is or is not. The same abuses and horror are everywhere just as the kindness and compassion. Thanks for the Blog Ru-an.

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    Ru-an Reply:

    Thanks toy you Susan for the years of loyal support. My readers deserve these rules just as I do. You are right that good and bad is everywhere and that everything is opinion. In the absolute sense good and bad is one and all knowledge is a form of ignorance. But this is a tennis blog and I wouldn’t host a tennis blog or have many readers if I didn’t have some confidence in my tennis knowledge. I’d like to think that at least when it comes to tennis my opinion carries a little more weight than the average reader of this blog.

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  4. Laying down the law! Your house, your rules buddy. They seem very reasonable to me in any kind of relationship. I have been so busy working that I haven’t read many comments so not sure what prompted this , but you are such a gentle soul and reasonable person that it must have gotten pretty bad in here for this to be necessary. Sorry to hear that. This blog is a sanctuary for me. A place that I know I can always go for joy and interesting discourse. Thank you for providing it and for protecting it. When I get a chance I will go back and see what happened.

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    Ru-an Reply:

    Thanks Eric. I like to think I am a gentle soul but that does not equate to weakness. I grew up very hard and have a brutal side to me. Definitely people do not want to push me too far. I am very happy to hear that my blog is a sanctuary for you. That makes me feel good about making these rules. As far as the last post goes I already erased the comments that were over the top so probably not worth your time to check it out. I actually feel I have been too lenient in the past. Almost weak. These new rules are like a new start. The people that needs to must adjust or get left behind.

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  5. Hello all,

    I’m beginning to see that a lot knowledge about eastern and western approaches to enlightenment are represented here. Is there a place on this web site for discussions about that topic?

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    Ru-an Reply:

    That’s not really the case Joe. It just happened to be a topic on my last post and you will find a wide range of topics are touched on in my blog. But it is mainly about tennis.

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  6. Hey Ru-an, great and good rules. You should not even have to write them, but unfortunately maybe there was a reason for it. I seriously hope I am not one of those whose comments you did not like or you found hurtfull. If I am one of those, then please know I am very sorry about that. I am one of those “it is all or nothing” kind of fans. I love something, then I go overboard. I don’t like or love something, then unfortunately I also go to the extreme. I don’t mean too, but at that moment I don’t know what else to do (with any kind of injustice) than write about it, because if I don’t and keep it to myself then I will explode !!!
    So if I am one of those, then I am really sorry. You know I love your blog and your articles. I don’t say it as a joke, I really mean it, I have not been reading or commenting for years (only for a short period of time) and you are in my opinion the ONLY one who gets Roger (the way I do and hope).
    Oh you… and to be honest Veronica too.

    I am a diehard Roger fan, but I am not his blind follower. He is not my God. He is my hero, because to be honest I don’t have that many people to look up too. I do not think he is perfect. Thank God he is not. Thank God he is human just like the rest of us. And I do question some of the things he does.
    And about Rafa, well, to be short, I don’t like him, but I do respect his accomplishments. He is not the devil or evil, but he not as innocent either as people make him out to be. And I don’t believe for a second that he is a puppet in his uncle’s hands. He is not a boy, he is a grown man who knows right from wrong. And to be honest, I love the fact that Roger is arrogant. HE IS. I love that about him. There is no reason that he should be picture perfect all the time or say the perfect things. If he was perfect, I would be bored in seconds (like I am when Novak gives the perfect interviews). He is aloud to make mistakes, so are Rafa, Novak, Andy and so are all the others.
    And I also admire you Ru-an for all you do for this blog. Hope you will have enough time to blog when you are a fair and tough teacher !!!
    And I agree with Veronica, now that you are an English teacher, please don’t look at our grammar and spelling mistakes !!!

    Ps Ru-an: To be clear… This is first a tennisblog, but I can write sometimes that I just love and love Roger right??? Because hey, I am a girl and the dude is quite handsome you know… and when I see him dress to kill or smile or make an awesome point, I just cannot stop myself !!!

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    Ru-an Reply:

    No problem Katyani you are probably the last person that has to worry about getting banned. You have never made hurtful or disrespectful comments. I know your love for Roger comes from a good and innocent place and yes you can say you love Roger as much as you want. This is still a blog for Fedfans but they must realize that Roger is because of tennis and not the other way around. It is all very simple really. Respect other players even if they are not your favorite and realize that there are no absolutes in the world or in tennis. No player is God, or the devil for that matter. Roger has weaknesses just as Nadal has strengths. My intentions with this blog is good. Rest assured. I myself have grown as a writer and have been guilty of being too fanatic in the past. I don’t judge myself for it because I have grown as a a person and as a fan. I find my current view more satisfactory and I am trying to help others see what I see, because I believe it will make them happier as fans and as human beings. Yes Nadal may be doping and he may be using gamesmanship, but is he the devil? Certainly not. That kind of judgement and condemnation won’t be tolerated here. If you want to criticize then criticize your favorite. I find that is a much healthier and correct way to do things. Nadal has certain strengths which Roger lacks, just as Roger has certain strengths that Nadal lacks. Whether we like it or not Nadal owns Roger, and it definitely is not all because of doping, assuming Nadal is even doping and Roger is not. I just can’t have these absolute and extremist type of views anymore. It is not in keeping with the way this blog is evolving and it is not healthy.
    Oh and funny comment about the English spelling. I myself can’t spell English so you certainly have nothing to worry about there! :-)

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    Katyani Reply:

    Hey Ru-an, thank you for your reply. But just now I have to give you and the rest a tip. If you guys have the time and ofcourse if it is available on YT, then watch the highlights of ATP R’dam Andy vs Dominic Thiem. Oh my God, who is he?? Where did he come from?? Ru-an, you must find some highlights and watch it. Do you guys know this Thiem?? I didn’t. He beat Tsonga and wow, he gave Andy HELL !!! 2,5 hours. He is 20 years old. Wow, if Roger or Novak would have to play him…. He hits so hard, with a single hand. But he doesn’t play like Roger or Gasquet. He plays a little bit like Stan or even like Andy. It was almost like Andy playing Andy only without two hands… Both great movers.
    And this I have to say too, kudos to Andy. Man, he played GREAT. If this is him coming back from an injury…. he will be unbeatable when he is in full form….
    Hey guys, a tip before Valentine… try to watch some highlights. One of the best matches I saw in a long time. This Thiem guy will be something great.
    Oh and Andy… watch out for him. This will be his and Roger’s year. Hopefully more Roger’s year !!!

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    Ru-an Reply:


    Looks promising. Nice bh and overall game.

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    Katyani Reply:

    Seriously, it was a great match. Dutch people rooting more for him than Andy, but again, kudos to Andy, he played great. If you did not know it, you would not have guessed he came from an injury. He ran all over the place…

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  7. Ruan,given that you discuss controversial topics and your tone is often harsh in the sense that you don`t mince your words, it is expected that things will get confrontational sometimes. Are we allowed to criticize? I feel like you can dish it, but get sensitive when people try to call you out on certain things. I apologize if I am being disrespectful.

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    Ru-an Reply:

    Maybe you misunderstood me then. Of course you are allowed to criticize. Are you not criticizing now? Am I erasing your comment? I do not mind criticism but flat out disrespect I won’t tolerate. Anyway if you don’t like the way I am doing things you don’t have to read my blog.

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    Jian Reply:

    Should have posted the comment under a reply, my mistake

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  8. Well I am just offering feedback,something you could consider as improvements are always possible. But of course its entirely up to you to accept or reject it.

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  9. When I first started reading this blog a few years ago, it was about Roger and tennis. I’m wondering if people will now be afraid to post comments.

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    Ru-an Reply:

    Well now it’s about tennis and Roger. Things change. And no people won’t be afraid to post comments. Unless they don’t abide by the rules.

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  10. These new rules sound totalitarian, how can we expect that criticism that is valid and put forth in a polite and constructive matter, will not be just blocked or deleted because it contradicts the views of the blogger? IF this is indeed becomes the reality, then you might as well just disable comments altogether. You need to walk a very fine line, because if we cannot agree that we disagree, what is the point?

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    Ru-an Reply:

    I don’t think the new rules are asking much, which is why the punishment for breaking them are severe. Bias is something disgusting and terrible, and must be brutally destroyed at all costs.

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    FeDaL Reply:

    You’re right, but still care should be taken not to exclude views put forth by others who can present a valid and objective argument for their views. As long as it isn’t filled with disdain and pure subjective fanboism.

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    Ru-an Reply:

    That’s true. I don’t have a problem with differing views anyway, unless those views are really absurd. If they are just put forth in an intelligent way it already helps. I won’t allow people to just make statements and not be able to back it up with sound arguments either. The main thing is the bias and lack of objectivity. It is easy to spot and won’t be tolerated. People must realize that Federer is not God and Nadal is not Satan. That kind of extremist thinking certainly won’t be tolerated here. Federer has flaws and Nadal has virtues. If you don’t agree you may as well stop reading right now and find yourself another blog to read. You will not be tolerated here.

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    Joe Reply:

    Well on that point, I would like to ask for some clarification about what would constitute a doping accusation. I wouldn’t want to step over the line!

    As an example, if I were to point out in a post that Nadal’s serve velocity increased by ten miles per hour at the US Open in 2010, and according to Nadal it was his new grip and improved confidence that resulted in the improvement, would anyone interpret that fact as an accusation?

    It’s simply a fact, after all, and by offering such a fact to support a point I was trying to make in my post – definitely not a conclusion of any kind about Mr. Nadal’s off-court behavior, but possibly a discussion about how a faster serve changed the dynamic of a match with Murray or Djokovic, for example – I hope I would not be thought of as a fanatic of some kind. I also consider it to be a well-established fact, for example, that Mr. Nadal is dedicated to improving every aspect of his game, and I think that is an admirable goal that we should all share on some level – on some level larger than tennis, that is…

    And of course this remarkable jump in serve velocity (just one example, IMHO, that calls us to question what we’re seeing in terms of tennis history during this era) doesn’t constitute proof of any kind.

    I want to be clear that I don’t intend simply to cite negative evidence about Mr. Nadal, and by doing that suggest implicitly that he’s using. I think it would be fairly obvious if I were doing that, and I think it would show a serious lack of class on my part!

    But equally, if I do point out something that happens to seem a little bit remarkable, I wouldn’t want a fact I’d cited to be interpreted by others as an accusation. Does that make sense?

    Above all, I don’t want to violate your rule about this, so I’d appreciate any further details you might choose to add about where you think the limit should be.

    By way of an explanation of an earlier post, I’d like to add that before I discovered this site it was my impression that the professional consensus was that Mr. Nadal was a user (e.g. Jon Wertheim’s article after the US Open 2013, when he repeatedly said that Nadal’s game is not ‘normal’) – and I apologize if that was a misunderstanding on my part, i.e. if it’s not actually as popular an opinion as I’d thought.

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    Ru-an Reply:

    No, stating a fact has nothing to do with accusation without proof. It is not the doping suspicions surrounding Nadal as such that bothers me. I have after all myself suspected him publicly in the past. It is that constant doping accusations by some posters which makes it look like we as Fedfans are looking for excuses as to why Nadal owns Roger and why he is on his way to catch up with Roger. I still think there is a good chance Nadal is doping, but I don’t use any opportunity I can possibly find to bring the subject up. That just looks BAD. There was a poster here who was talking about it all the time, as if this was a blog about doping. I have asked before for the doping accusations to stop, at which point the poster stopped posting. After a while he came back though, and the doping talk started again. So finally I had to make an official rule about it, after which this poster made his dissatisfaction clear in no uncertain terms. That poster is now banned. This is not a doping blog. This is a tennis blog. As long as you don’t forget that and make us all look like butt hurt losers you can bring up a fact like you did and ask a question. To me the doping discussion is to a large extent pointless because we don’t know who dopes and who doesn’t. It is all speculation until we have hard proof. Anyone could be doping for all we know, Roger included. It is like Pandora’s box. If you open it the discussion will overshadow tennis, and like I said this is not a doping blog. If you want to discuss there is THASP.com, which is where the banned poster belong. That poster hardly ever spoke about tennis, and when he did it was something negative about Roger. I just don’t want that kind of negativity around here that says ‘the whole sport is a farce because of doping and Federer is old and over he hill so I will just talk about how bad doping is in tennis’. Federer still has good tennis in him left and not every single player in the sport is doping. This blog is about tennis and Federer. Lets try to focus on that.

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    Joe Reply:

    Great stuff Ruan, thanks!

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    Ru-an Reply:

    You are welcome. I am trying to make this a balanced, objective blog and anyone who tries to interfere with that will not be tolerated.

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  11. I think point is that it’s silly to accuse any one player when any or all of them could be doing it. This is a tennis blog, I am a huge life long tennis fan and the doping question is quite disturbing to me for the future of tennis. Look at the destruction it has caused in baseball. And cycling. As for tennis, roger has specifically complained that he does not get tested enough. I think it’s good and valuable that this important topic is fair game to discuss as long as it’s not used as a baseless claim and an unknowable excuse why roger loses. That’s just embarrassing. I would like it if the ATP would talk about it more and protect the sport better from accusations by having even tougher testing standards. I read a fascinating article about the new science of doping at the Olympics that you all might find interesting. If this is over the line you,re trying to draw Ru-an, please let me know and I’ll refrain from mentioning it again. Peace everyone.

    http://www.businessinsider.com/gene-doping-at-the-olympics-2014-2

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    Ru-an Reply:

    Like I said before Eric, I don’t mind talk about doping now and then, but because this is a tennis blog the best place to discuss it would be on a doping blog like THASP.com. It is a very complicated topic and too vague for this blog. It also make us look like butthurt losers by bringing it up here.

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