Hi friends. I couldn’t stay away from tennis very long, could I? Don’t worry, I’m not still obsessed with Roger winning another slam. I just thought the above quote from Roger was worth a post. Of course it is nice to read and it gives you renewed hope, but I have already made the decision just to take things as they come and I’m not going back on that. It’s is almost as if Roger is trying to get us to take the bait again with this quote, but of course that is not at all what he is doing. I think he really believes he can win another slam and he has the right attitude. But this is what makes it tricky to be a Fedfan. I am tempted to have expectations again and become emotionally invested, but this time I won’t allow it. I think there is an important life lesson in this.
You might think from my blog that my life revolves around tennis and Roger, but that is far from the truth. Tennis and Roger is something I am passionate about but I blog for enjoyment or as a hobby. Offline I have big dreams and ambitions and one thing I have learned of late is that you can dream and want better things, but you should never make the present moment a means to an end. The present moment is primary and as long as you are dissatisfied with it you can’t have it better. So actually appreciating what I do have instead of noticing what I don’t have is something I have been focusing quite a bit on of late. I have been trying to do the same with tennis and Roger but still I felt very disappointed when Roger did not win the US Open. Another lesson learned.
Tweenerer back in Geneva
I allowed myself to become attached to the outcome again instead of appreciating what I have. I suspect it is harder than it seems and takes quite a bit of practice before you get it right. I thought after Cincy that I was happy with what Roger achieved and that whatever the outcome at the US Open I would be OK with it. Yet I was not. Far from it. So here I am again trying not to get emotionally invested after Roger’s latest statement. What makes it hard is that I actually believe him. I believe that he can win another slam. The trick is not to expect it to happen though. I am not sure if you are always with me when I write these things but I’m sure at least some of you will resonate with what I’m saying. I think I will just appreciate what a great year this has been for Roger and the fact that he has already won 17 slams.
Also this terrific blog with all the terrific people reading and commenting. I’ll be honest with you. I have even thought about quitting blogging because it seemed to me I couldn’t blog without becoming emotionally invested and hurt. Who knows. Maybe I can’t. But that shouldn’t be the case. Surely I can be satisfied with 17 slams and the best blog readers a blogger could ask for. Or else I may indeed be a glory hunter like Krean said! Jokes aside though, I don’t think I’m the only fan who finds it difficult not to get emotionally invested. In fact probably 99% of fans do become emotionally invested. Maybe some of us just deal better with losses than others. Personally I am a passionate person and I tend to be an all or nothing kind of guy. I can’t just invest a little emotion.
Well I am back today after not being able to finish this post yesterday. It didn’t feel right yet. But today I figured it won’t get as bad as this last episode again because now I have even lower expectations. Some of my readers are sure Roger will win another slam, or even more than one. Personally I am not that sure. In fact I don’t want to be, because if it doesn’t happen then I will suffer again. Nothing in the future is guaranteed after all, and all the more so in the case of Roger winning another slam. I think it’s great that Roger thinks he can win another slam and I think it is possible, but my expectation is now lower than it was in 2014. I will just focus on providing more value with my blog and making it the best tennis blog in the world. If Roger wins another slam then great.
If he doesn’t then I still have the best tennis blog in the world!
Ps. Forgot to add something about the US Open final. It was a blowout, with Cilic winning 6-3, 6-3, 6-3. A pretty disappointing scoreline for a slam final and I wasn’t gonna make any effort to watch it either. But it was nice to see that Roger lost to the eventual winner who didn’t drop a set from the quarter final onward. So congrats to Cilic on his first slam and a terrific two weeks. The fact that Cilic won the final so comfortably makes me feel better about Roger’s loss to him. Cilic was basically just unplayable, like Del Potro in 2009. Similar playing styles and personalities too. So I think Roger can be really proud of his US Open performance and a fantastic year so far. Hopefully he can end it in style with another Masters Cup title or the Davis Cup!
Pps: I just realized the link where this was originally posted leads to a blank page, so there is no actual proof that Roger said this. Oops! Doesn’t matter either way…